NOW YOU HAVE THE TOOLS
Fix It. Rebuild It. Make It Stronger.
Great Guys gives you practical tools for the things that matter most—
not just to become a better man, but to build a better life.
Use them to make better choices, handle challenges differently,
strengthen relationships, and get more of what you really want from life.
More happiness. More success. Better relationships.
You don’t need every tool today.
Just know which one to reach for when you need it.
SOMETHING COULD BE BETTER.
Which Tool Do You Need?
You don't have to fix everything about yourself.
When it’s not working, the problem isn't who you are. It's the tool you're reaching for.
Explore the Great Guys Toolkit. Many will discover that what you've been trying to change doesn't need more effort—it needs a better tool.
Want More Love, Happiness, Success?
Who Doesn't?
Unhappy With Something Or Someone In Your Life?
Who Isn't?
NOT SURE YOU’RE READY?
You don’t have to have everything figured out.
You don’t have to use all 12 tools.
And you certainly don’t have to become somebody else.
Start with the one thing you’d most like to make better.
We’ll help you choose the right tool to start.
All The 12 Tools in the Tool box
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COMPASS
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ACE
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5 SABOTEURS
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REFRAME
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ENOUGH
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INNOCENT
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SELF-FORGIVEN
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AMENDS
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THE 5 A'S
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ATTRACT
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GOOD HAPPENS
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TOOLKIT
WHAT WOULD YOU MOST LIKE TO MAKE BETTER RIGHT NOW?
Which Tool Do You Need?
Don’t overthink it. Choose the one that sounds most like you today.
MY PAST KEEPS SHOWING UP IN MY PRESENT.
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Things from childhood or earlier life may still be influencing how I react, connect, trust, or see myself.
I REACT BEFORE I HAVE TIME TO THINK.
I get defensive, angry, controlling, withdrawn, or fall into familiar behaviors—and sometimes wonder afterward, “Why did I do that?”
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I WANT MY RELATIONSHIPS TO FEEL BETTER.
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I want more connection, less chasing, less friction, and a better way to give and receive what really matters.
THERE’S SOMETHING I NEED TO MAKE RIGHT.
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I hurt someone, broke trust, made a mistake, or left something unresolved—and I’m not sure what to do next.
I’M HAVING A HARD TIME FORGIVING MYSELF.
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I can understand mistakes intellectually, but guilt, shame or regret keep pulling me back into the past.
I KEEP THINKING I SHOULD BE BETTER, DO MORE OR PROVE MYSELF.
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No matter what I accomplish, part of me still wonders whether I measure up.
I KNOW MY OLD RESPONSE ISN’T WORKING, BUT I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO INSTEAD.
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I’d like to see situations differently instead of automatically repeating the same interpretation and response.
I’VE LOST TOUCH WITH THE PERSON I REALLY WANT TO BE.
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Life, relationships, mistakes and expectations have piled up. I’d like to get underneath all of that and reconnect with myself.
I WANT TO STOP CHASING AND START ATTRACTING.
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I’m tired of pushing, pursuing, convincing or trying to force outcomes.
I WANT TO MAKE MORE GOOD HAPPEN.
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Things may actually be going pretty well. I simply want to become more intentional about the impact I have on other people.
“I’m not sure what needs fixing—I just know I want to make better choices about where I’m headed.”
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Choose who you want to be. Head True North.
WHICH TOOL DO I REACH FOR?
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Now the real skill is knowing which one to use — and when.
COMPASS
Find Your True North
Ever wonder how you got so far from where you meant to be?
REVEAL: Any one of these six points being off can set the compass off kilter.
We aren’t happy. It just takes one.
We are wired to look for, to suspect what’s wrong.
We may overdo to compensate
We wander instead of being on our hero’s journey.
True North means correcting what’s wrong before journeying on.
Getting clear on which is off provides focus to correct and get back on path.
WHY: Life gets busy. It's surprisingly easy to drift without realizing it.
BENEFIT: Get clear about where you're going and who you want to be.
HOW: Find your True North, recognize when you're off course, and choose your way back.
The Shift: From “I know something’s off, but I don’t know what to do” → to knowing where you are, what you need, and which tool can help you head True North.
ACE
Your past helped define your trajectory as an adult. Assessing this provides an opportunity for course correction.
What if some of today's reactions started a long time ago?
REVEAL: Take the recognized ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) assessment and explore childhood experiences that may still be influencing you today.
WHY: What happened growing up can shape how we learn to react to stress, conflict, trust and relationships.
BENEFIT: Understand where some of your patterns may have started—without letting your past define your future.
HOW: Awareness helps you recognize an old reaction and empowers you to choose more wisely.
THE SHIFT: You didn't choose what happened then. You can choose what happens now.
5 SABOTEURS
Stop Reactions From Taking the Wheel
Ever react first and regret it later?
WHY: An old automatic reaction is almost always faster than your better judgment. It’s how we are wired for survival.
BENEFIT: Identify the reaction before it takes over.
HOW: Spot your Bully, Hero, Martyr, Wounded Child or Peter Pal early enough to choose what happens next.
The Shift:From reacting automatically → to recognizing who grabbed the wheel and choosing your response.
REFRAME
Change the View. Change What Happens Next.
What if the problem isn't only what happened—but what you've decided it means?
The story in your head can drive what you do next
BENEFIT: Get unstuck and create better choices.
HOW: Change the frame, see another possibility, and choose a different response.
The Shift Change the Story. Change the Response.
ENOUGH
Stop Proving. Start Living.
What if all that proving still never feels like enough?
WHY: Achievement, approval and winning don't always quiet the feeling that you should be more.
BENEFIT: Spend less energy proving your worth and more energy living your life.
HOW: Recognize what you're really chasing and discover what changes when “enough” isn't something you have to earn.
The Shift: Stop Proving. Start Being.
INNOCENT
Come Back to Who You Really Are
Who you were before they let you down. Before they said you were bad, wrong, and guilty.
WHY: The defenses that once protected you may no longer be serving you.
BENEFIT: Surviving then isn’t thriving now.
HOW: Recognize old defenses, lower the ones you no longer need, and return to your inherent self.
The Shift: From guilt, shame, fear, powerless to empowered adult.
SELF-FORGIVEN
Stop Paying for Yesterday With Today
How long should one mistake get to collect interest?
WHY: Guilt and shame can turn accountability into endless self-abuse.
BENEFIT: Release guilt and shame and restore self-love.
HOW: Forgive Self. Restore goodness. Make amends.
THE SHIFT: “I wish I hadn't” doesn't have to become “I wish I could forgive myself.”
AMENDS
Restore and Strengthen What You Can
What if “I'm sorry” isn't the end—but the beginning?
WHY: Regret alone doesn't repair what happened. It takes remorse.
BENEFIT: Make things right where you can and move forward.
HOW: Take responsibility, repair what's yours to repair, and ask for the same in return.
The Shift:From distrust and misunderstanding to caring. From damaged, to better, clearer, stronger.
THE 5 A'S
Build Better Relationships
Getting clear on what you’re not getting opens up understanding what you’re not giving.
WHY: Trying harder doesn't always create more connection. Sometimes we need to give differently.
BENEFIT: Create stronger connections with the people who matter.
HOW: Practice five powerful relationship tools: Attention, Acceptance, Allowing, Affection and Appreciation
The Shift:From pursuing approval and connection → to creating attraction through Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowing.
ATTRACT
Attract More. Pursue Less.
What if chasing harder is actually pushing what you want farther away?
WHY: Pursuing, convincing and controlling can exhaust you—and the people around you.
BENEFIT: Spend less energy chasing and create more of what you want.
HOW: Shift from trying to get what you want to becoming more of what naturally attracts it.
The Shift:From defining yourself by mistakes, wounds, and old stories → to reconnecting with your inherent worth.
GOOD HAPPENS
Turn Gratitude Into Good Actions
What good is a toolbox if the tools stay in the box?
WHY: Knowing better isn't the finish line. Living differently is.
BENEFIT: Make a positive difference for yourself and the people around you.
HOW: Take your Great Guys tools into your everyday choices, relationships and actions.
THE SHIFT: Don't just know better. Help Good Happen.
Toolkit
Know Which Tool to Reach for When you want to be in your adult
When life happens, will you know which tool to grab?
WHY: You don't need every tool for every situation. You need the right tool at the right time.
BENEFIT: Leave with a toolbox you can actually use.
HOW: Connect what you've learned, recognize what's happening, and know which Great Guys tool to reach for when you need it.
The Shift:From learning 12 separate tools → to carrying a personal toolbox you know how to use in real life.
YOU MAY NOT NEED TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE.
You May Just Need a Better Tool.
You don't need every tool every day.
Find the one you need.
Try it. Use it. Live it.
Better Tools. Better Choices. Better Relationships.