Better Men.
Better Lives.
INSIDE EVERY GOOD MAN
IS A GREAT GUY.
Most men were taught how to work, provide, compete and succeed.
But who taught us how to let go of a grudge?
Repair a relationship?
Handle getting triggered?
Recognize the old patterns that keep getting in our way?
Or know when we’re already enough?
Great Guys gives men practical tools for the stuff nobody taught us.
01 — Recognition
Good men
still get stuck.
We get angry.
Hold grudges.Say things we regret.
Try to fix everybody.
Keep score.
Shut down.Get defensive.Avoid what we don’t want to face.
You don’t have to be perfect to become a great guy.
That doesn’t mean you’re a bad guy.
It may mean an old pattern is running the show.
Who’s running
the show?
01 — Recognition
Meet five familiar characters that can show up when we’re hurt, threatened, frustrated or afraid.
Bully
Attack before I get attacked.
Hero
I’ll fix it.
They’re not bad guys.
They’re old protection strategies that sometimes create new problems.
Martyr
After everything I’ve done...
Wounded Child
They don’t understand me.
Notice the pattern.
Then choose who drives.
Peter
Forget it. I’d rather have fun.
THIS ISN’T ANOTHER
SELF-HELP COURSE.IT’S A TOOLBOX.
Something getting in your way?
Find the tool that fits.
GRUDGE LESS
Put down the resentment.
REFRAME
Change the frame. See another possibility.
GOOD ENOUGH
Stop trying to prove your worth.
RETRAIN YOUR ZILLA
Create a pause before you react.
MAKE AMENDS
Own your mess. Help repair it.
FORGIVE
Keep the lesson. Release the weight.
FOLLOW YOUR NORTH STAR
Choose your direction.
04 — Directions
Life can knock
your compass
off course.
Grudges. Fear. Shame. Guilt.
Old hurts. Old beliefs.
Other people’s expectations.
They can all pull us away from the man we want to be.
Great Guys helps you notice where you are, choose where you want to go and take the next step.
Your compass may wobble.
Your North Star is still there.
A moment of recognition
What’s getting
in your way today?
Change becomes easier when you can clearly see the pattern standing between you and the man you want to become.
A grudge?
→Anger you can’t seem to let go?
→The need to fix everybody?
→A habit of keeping score?
→Something you’ve been avoiding?
→That doesn’t mean you’re a bad guy.
Start with one thing.
We’ll help you find the tool.
“I wish I had
known then
what I know now.”
I’m Tom North.
I didn’t create Great Guys because I’ve always had life figured out.
I created it because it took me a long time to learn some things I wish someone had taught me much earlier.
Great Guys is about passing those tools on.