Nourish the Wolf of Love - Rick Hanson, Ph.D.
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Nourish the Wolf of Love - Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Today, you can observe the wolf of hate all around us, in acts of thought, word, and deed. For example, as soon as we see others as "not my tribe," whether it's at home or work or on the evening news, the wolf of hate lifts its head and looks around for danger. And then, if we feel at all threatened or mistreated or desperate, the wolf of hate jumps up and looks for someone to howl at or bite.

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Happiness Comes from Making Others Feel Good - Mark Travers Ph.D.
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Happiness Comes from Making Others Feel Good - Mark Travers Ph.D.

  • Attempts to make others happy increase happiness more so than trying to make oneself happy, new research suggests.

  • The findings may seem counterintuitive, but they confirm previous research that shows that people derive happiness from helping others.

  • Feelings of "relatedness," or being close to others, may help explain why helping others boosts mood.

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How to Be Happy: A Surprising Lesson on Happiness From an African Tribe - James Clear
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How to Be Happy: A Surprising Lesson on Happiness From an African Tribe - James Clear

“Africans have a thing called ubuntu. We believe that a person is a person through other persons. That my humanity is caught up, bound up, inextricably, with yours. When I dehumanize you, I dehumanize myself. The solitary human being is a contradiction in terms. Therefore you seek to work for the common good because your humanity comes into its own in community, in belonging.”

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You’re Not an Individual, and Here’s Why - Matthew Legge
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You’re Not an Individual, and Here’s Why - Matthew Legge

Even though we all learned how to be ourselves through imitation and some amount of accidental or deliberate innovation (we’re not perfect at copying), we mostly feel like, by the time we’re adults, we’re making our own careful choices.

That’s our inner experience and it seems obviously true. That’s why the findings of network science are so shocking.

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